Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Told You!

So, I am finally able to post on here again.

No, we did not get internet at our house yet.

We finally got internet at the school and I finally have had time to sit down at the computer and do some surfing before the bus is scheduled to take teachers home again.

If you are looking for a place of uplifting right now, you might as well skip reading my blog today. I am tired. I am discouraged. I am frustrated.

The Big K is a land of big promises that are not filled. I promise you that every promise that has been made to Stephen and I, regarding accommodations, amenities (t.v. and internet hookup), getting paid....basically anything that a new job promises they will provide for you...has not actually happened.

This does not mean that we are living in a cardboard box in a field with all the stray dogs that love it here. We are, in fact, in our apartment and thankfully, have not had any major problems with it, as other teachers have had. Some teachers have had flooding in their basements, mold is covering walls, dishwashers have flooded kitchens, due to improper installment, lamps have caught fire, due to faulty electrical wiring. I am extremely grateful that none of this has happened to us. What I am struggling with is having any sort of normalcy and routine.

The school I am working for (I won't name it on here - if you're curious, email me) opened on Monday, the first, with a ceremony. The mayor actually attended and said a few words. (He had said he was coming to visit last week and never showed up.) There were children and parents EVERYWHERE, not moving, not doing anything we asked them to do -- You mean "Please move to the atrium for the ceremony" doesn't actually mean, "Please stand in my classroom doorway and block the way for anyone to move"? By the way, the big K doesn't believe in any form of a line or waiting turns. It's a free-for-all. I hate it. I need order, people!

Okay, first day of school was yesterday. It went alright. I had 19 students -- 7 boys, 12 girls. 4 of them speak English. About 5 of them understand English at a basic level, and the rest - TEN - do not speak or understand English at all. This is fine, I tell myself. I have taught non-English speaking students before. They learn it quickly and all is good. Today, I feel outnumbered.

One of the students told my teaching assistant, Kathrine (who is kindly translating for me in Russian) that he doesn't want to listen to me. She should just tell him what to do. She told him that will not be happening and for the rest of the day, he glared at me. After school, I met with his father and informed him of this and his father's attitude was that his son is bored and should skip a grade. Our registrar said absolutely not. Second day of school, people.

I have a headache because I am extremely dehydrated. I forgot my water bottle at home this morning and since the school doesn't have any drinking fountains - STUPID - and only serve this nasty "juice" at lunch, I am darn thirsty.

Are we doing alright? Yes, of course. I am so blessed to have my husband. He is so supportive and loving and has been listening to my gripes every night with so much patience. He feels my pain, too, and knows that things are different here. It all just makes me want to leave here. I am missing home. The familiarity of how the U.S. does things is what I crave. It is what I know and love. It makes sense to me. For the most part, when you are told that something will happen, you can bet that it will.

Obviously, I am coveting some prayers, if you think of it. I am just sad and discouraged right now, which I have been experiencing off and on since we got here. I know the feeling will pass in a day or two and I will be back to myself. I was supposed to get paid last week and haven't because the school's accountant is a pain in the butt. I know that's not the right attitude, but it's true. Hopefully, she will believe be this time when I tell her that the US doesn't use IBAN numbers. I don't have an IBAN number. I will never have an IBAN number. I am not a liar.

I am hoping I can post more often. Hopefully with a more upbeat message. It is very difficult right now, though, as I am bound to the school's schedule with transport. My internet exposure is very limited. Love you, my precious little readers!

4 comments:

Heather of Troy said...

Dear Beth!

Wow...my heart goes out to you. So much of what you say resonates with the things I have experienced. I'm so glad you are married to a wonderful, supportive husband who can just let you vent your frustration and encourage you to stick it out together. That's a big blessing I didn't have. Not that it makes the frustrations any less, well...frustrating.

A couple of thoughts about some of your thoughts...

You said, "The Big K is a land of big promises that are not filled."

Amen, sister. I think that pretty much wraps it up for the entire former Soviet Union. The effect this has had on the people who lived through 70 years of Communism and now 10+ years of supposed "democracy" (which is anything BUT) has been a lack of trust in mankind. And when you can't trust anyone to stick to their word, you simply give up on a lot of things. It's such a hard thing to not turn completely pessimistic when you hear anyone make a "promise." You might try interpreting promises as "good intentions" and make sure you keep an open mind about "deadlines."

You said, "By the way, the big K doesn't believe in any form of a line or waiting turns. It's a free-for-all. I hate it. I need order, people!"

This just made me smile because I remember learning (the hard way) that if I wanted to successfully get off the subway and onto the escalators I needed to push my way through and push hard. Not something I'm used to. The crazy thing is that when I got home to the states I'd find myself knocking people over trying to get through a doorway when we were all going in the same direction. I guess I learned to be "pushy" to survive in Ukraine and it was just as hard to unlearn it back home! I can imagine this would make teaching totally difficult. You might have to try some fun games about "learning a new American custom" and make it a game or something. Good luck. Forming lines is something we learn in pre-school but they haven't ever learned. It will take some time!

You said, "Since the school doesn't have any drinking fountains - STUPID - and only serve this nasty "juice" at lunch, I am darn thirsty."

I remember the first time I visited a school without drinking fountains and had to drink this nasty "Multivitamin" juice. It was in Germany and I couldn't believe that such an "advanced" country didn't have drinking fountains! I soon began to really appreciate the fact that in America you can get "free water" (that's actually not contaminated) everywhere...and that's something I highly value! I asked for "tap water" at a restaurant in Paris one time because I didn't want to pay $5 for a bottle of water. The waitress looked at me like I was an alien and said, "Okay," very skeptically. She brought me my "free but dirty" water and I drank it with a smile!

As you crave the familiarity of American trustworthiness and expectations I pray for you that you will get through this nasty phase of culture shock. It is a phase, so please let that encourage you. You will get used to these new things, but unfortunately they will probably always take more energy to handle than life in America. But you didn't expect this to be easy, I know. My prayers are with you!

Angela said...

Beth, don't forget that I pray for you everyday. Seriously, you and Stephen are on my mind and lifted up! I hope that in the midst of the many challenges you will have the ability to see some good, to learn from this season of life.
Remember, you are loved! (by me, your parents, many friends, but most of all Jesus Christ)

Jessie J said...

Sweetheart. I am praying for you. I'm am very glad the apartment is nice so you haven't had any problems. I can't imagine how much your missing home. I complain about missing my mom but I'm only 10 hours away. You're on the other side of the planet. I pray you can get your internet running so you can talk to your family more.
I think students in any language can be a pain :) I could never be a teacher. You are much braver than me. How is your russian coming along? Maybe the people will listen better when you speak their language. I hope so anyways. What is IBAN by the way? I'm guessing their version of social security?
Well I am always reading your blog and sending prayers your way. God has a plan for you over there and it will get better. I am sure of it.
I love you Beth. Tell Stephen hi from me and the family.

Brie said...

Beth,

Just wanted to write and let you know that you've been on my mind a lot since I read this post about a week ago. Praying that things are looking up for you guys and that you're using this time to draw closer to the one constant in our lives...the love of our Lord and Savior.

Hopefully, looking back on everything, you'll be able to laugh and realize the amazing life lessons learned through this all.

Wishing you a much better week this week than last.

God bless,
Brie